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Guest | | Moving Foward (26th Jul 09 at 2:32pm UTC) | | | Over the span of a life time people come and go within our lives, some we just care about and some we know we love with the bottom our our hearts. These past 4 days have been really hard on me cause the women I loved so deeply walked out on me fo no reason an all and wont give me an explanation why, she just says it wasn't me, but its hard to believe her. Now the question is thi9s, how do you deal with losing someone you care about? And should you go and prove your care by being able to or try to fight and show them how much you care? I'm just wondering cause personally i'm very confused on what to do, i'd rather just die then even continue living at this point... | |
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pmwww | | Re: Moving Foward (26th Jul 09 at 5:36pm UTC) | | i'd rather just die then even continue living at this point...
First off - quit those thoughts.
The old dictum of 'there's plenty more fish in the sea' is, while somewhat corny, completely true. It may take a while but you'll eventually realise that things weren't right for whatever reason and that its best to move on.
It'll probably...actually, it will do more harm than good if you sit and mope about it; get yourself active and try to do things to take your mind off it - spend time with friends or doing hobbies.
I wouldn't recommend trying to get back with her - the problems that caused the break-up will still be there even if you were reconciled. The idea of it 'not being you' means that there's probably little you can do to sway her - eventually she'll realise if you've made a mistake.
My recommendation is to get your head clean, move on and find someone who loves and appreciates you, not someone who may not and obviously doesn't know what she wants. | |
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Guest | | Re: Moving Foward (26th Jul 09 at 6:02pm UTC) | | I know what you mean, but in the end for some people its easier said then done. I've been trying so hard to move on but it seems like most of my friend have abandon me or are moving away leaving me with very few peolle to talk to and no friend to be around. As for hobbies, they tend to revolve around listenign to music and designing webistes, but when music reminds me for her and i can't stop thinking of her in order to focus its hard. Plus it doesn't help a bit that i'm mostly awake at night, alone and can't go out side cause i'm only 17 and there is a cerfew... makes it so hard.. sadly these last few days have just made me feel more and more empty..
Edit: I'm sorry I don't mean to be turning down advice, but i've been trying everythign so far and nothing seems to help. And i understand what you mean about not getting back with her, but i've been with others and no one made me feel like she did. | |
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pmwww | | Re: Moving Foward (27th Jul 09 at 9:59pm UTC) | | You know I tell you not to wait for a girl to find you...
I guess I'm lucky out of the 3 of us.  My girl found me online. and we've been together for 3 months. We finally met last Wednesday. and it was awesome!  I love her so much! and she loves me so much! 
Congrats, but probably not the most sensitive thing to say in this thread, really. | |
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pmwww | | Re: Moving Foward (28th Jul 09 at 2:46am UTC) | | You know I tell you not to wait for a girl to find you...
I guess I'm lucky out of the 3 of us. My girl found me online. and we've been together for 3 months. We finally met last Wednesday. and it was awesome! I love her so much! and she loves me so much! Congrats, but probably not the most sensitive thing to say in this thread, really. | |
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Guest | | Re: Moving Foward (28th Jul 09 at 10:43am UTC) | | Graham@ Its ok, i already know about it before he posted it on here, i know about it the night of the date, then the next day i get left.
D-Mage@ I'm happy for you man.
Anthony@ First stopping to talk to a friend in need is a good way to show your not a friend, second you know i hate using phone, plus you know i've been really sick and I have no voice at all because of it. You said I have been ignore what everyone said, the fact is that i've been listening anthony, and i have been trying, but when you really love someone and i mean really love someone its not easy to just push yourself forward, it does take work, and for me being alone makes it worse, i need friends and someone to talk to even if it is the same things over and over...And you i was only with her for 5 almost 6 months, but dude she mad me feel way different then chelsey or gabby ever did. Its hard to explain the feeling. But we can continue this on messenger...
As for everyone else i'm doing a little better I guess. I don't feel so good still cause i've been so stressed because of this and its make an already current cold so much worse. But this may sound stupid casue everyoe is going tog ive me the fish in the sea thinsg again, but in the end isn't it just best to stay alone when your afraid of getting hurt. I've really seen considering it and well it might be best if i die alone, not sure my heart can take getting hurt again. | |
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