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pmwwwmsngtalk | | Regrets in Life (25th Aug 08 at 8:50am UTC) | | I'm sure we've all run into the person who lives their life in the here and now, and has no regrets, but honestly, how can you look back and be ok with every little thing you've down.
I find it hard to believe that there is a person out there that lived a life of no regret other than people during the Biblical times, and even them there were probably bunches of people who would be fine to change something.
I'm mainly discussing this because I ran across a post on twitter.com which is quite unusual because I don't use the site, and then at the same time a song was playing and it really got me thinking, and there's a very deep side to me that honestly nobody knows about and it's only unleashed when I'm alone, and thinking.
I, myself, have thought there weren't to many things I've regretted in life, but when I started to think I just couldn't believe a few things I've done. I'm a person that's quick to judge. I can't believe how much it's pretty much ruined tons of chances of friendships too. They're have been some pretty decent people I've refused to have a friendly talk with because an opinion a friend had or just the whole judging the book by the cover.
I've also made some very stupid choices in my life and I'd be in a much better place if I had never gone with it. I think that my whole design career was a complete accident and isn't the right thing sometimes. It's quite hard to tell because God's got a plan and I wont know what my direction is until I'm sent out on it after school is finished.
I've also gotten mixed up in the wrong crowds and done some stupid things, and probably ruined some other peoples lives with hateful words and actions and it ruins me on the inside that I would let myself or friends do that to another human being. Although that was probably 4 years ago, and now I try to keep the same attitude with who ever I'm talking to even if I don't like them too much, but it makes me so mad to see a preppy girl who thinks shes a better human being than someone else act like they like a guy just to make him think he's cool but in all they're just getting a joke out of it. That's the stuff I can't stand what so ever. I don't ever get too violent, but that really makes me want to hit something.
I bet someone will post saying "I don't regret anything." and I find that too hard to believe. It's hard to look back at EVERY little thing you've EVER done and say, yeah.. I'm cool with that.
Sometimes I can't even stand the things I've done over the internet. I've ruined some friendships over the internet with people that were pretty cool, and it sucks. I don't know why I feel the need to be so stupid at times, and why I can't think as rationally as I can when I'm triggered by these random things, but it makes me quite angry at myself. | |
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pm | | Re: Regrets in Life (25th Aug 08 at 9:09am UTC) | | Well, if I look back at my life there are things that others would say that they would regret, though, I try my hardest to live with no regrets. But there are other major things that I do regret.
One thing that is my biggest regret is to do with my schooling. I was selected for acceleration, pretty huge in Australia as it doesn't tend to happen and I was also the first one to go through it at my school. I saw how much confidence my principal had in me, and I said I'd give it a shot, so, in the end, I got lazy and cruisey, don't ask me why - I could just never find the motivation to do what I wanted to, made up excuses for things that I could have easily avoided with maybe 30 minutes work.
That's probably one of my biggest regrets, as a result, I only scored 85% in my School Certificate in Science, and I'm coming 14th in my year for my H.S.C (for people outside of Australia, H.S.C is like, the 2 years before University). Because of that, I have had to adjust my whole subject selection to incorporate a buffer so that I can fail the subject and still get a decent mark at the end of the year.
That's probably my biggest regret so far. I sometimes wish that I was a lot wiser, a lot earlier. You get exposed to things as you get older, and you always think that you are wise - especially with popularity, however, when it comes down to it. Wisdom comes from experience and to say that you have experienced something when you haven't is absurd. However, I am not the only one to have done things like that, they are ones that I regret.
I basically regret my ability at being able to talk. Because I can talk well, I tend to procrastinate which is my BIGGEST problem of all. I missed my girlfriends 16th Birthday because I procrastinated about getting her a present and stuff, lucky mum caught me and bought her some stuff which I gave to her.
That's about it though, I have memory lapses lately, so to remember things that have happened relatively recently is becoming a bit of effort. The downside of the HSC, is it's too hard and jam packed to allow you time to really think >.< | |
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pmwww | | Re: Regrets in Life (25th Aug 08 at 9:58pm UTC) | | I do feel bad about the things I've done in the past; they eat away at me when I think back to how horrible I've been in the past. But tricky, to be honest, I don't regret it. Everything that happens in life happens for a reason, and if I hadn't done the things I have, I wouldn't have been able to learn from my wrongs, and I wouldn't be as close to God as I am now.
I'll try to keep religion out of this, and for everyone else who doesn't believe, ignore the religious comments I make as they're directed to tricky and not intended to start a debate on beliefs. All the bad you've done is just a part of God's plan for you. I believe I know what His plan for me is, but getting to that point is still a mystery to me. But everything that you do is part of His plan.
Feeling bad for things you've thought/done is understandable, but one shouldn't regret them. We are nothing more than the sum of our experiences; everything that's happened in our lives makes us who we are today. Even one small choice can change your life completely; if you hadn't make the mistakes you may not have become the better person that you are today. | |
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pm | | Re: Regrets in Life (26th Aug 08 at 7:22am UTC) | | I do feel bad about the things I've done in the past; they eat away at me when I think back to how horrible I've been in the past. But tricky, to be honest, I don't regret it. Everything that happens in life happens for a reason, and if I hadn't done the things I have, I wouldn't have been able to learn from my wrongs, and I wouldn't be as close to God as I am now.
I'll try to keep religion out of this, and for everyone else who doesn't believe, ignore the religious comments I make as they're directed to tricky and not intended to start a debate on beliefs. All the bad you've done is just a part of God's plan for you. I believe I know what His plan for me is, but getting to that point is still a mystery to me. But everything that you do is part of His plan.
Feeling bad for things you've thought/done is understandable, but one shouldn't regret them. We are nothing more than the sum of our experiences; everything that's happened in our lives makes us who we are today. Even one small choice can change your life completely; if you hadn't make the mistakes you may not have become the better person that you are today.
How do you know that we will always become better? Maybe if you had stayed in school, you would have been a better person. You would have understood things better and grown - up a bit more and then you may have had motivation to change something.
By understanding things like history and any conceptual based subject, you can see things about humans that people who don't study these subjects do. I guess in a way you become wiser and more humble in a way. You respect yourself more and things like that.
That could be a very large regret. You would also feel bad - but regret the day you dropped out of school. To say that you will always be a better person, regardless if you follow god's path or your own, whatever your beliefs are - is not always true is it? That you will be a better person... | |
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pmwww | | Re: Regrets in Life (26th Aug 08 at 11:03pm UTC) | | I do feel bad about the things I've done in the past; they eat away at me when I think back to how horrible I've been in the past. But tricky, to be honest, I don't regret it. Everything that happens in life happens for a reason, and if I hadn't done the things I have, I wouldn't have been able to learn from my wrongs, and I wouldn't be as close to God as I am now.
I'll try to keep religion out of this, and for everyone else who doesn't believe, ignore the religious comments I make as they're directed to tricky and not intended to start a debate on beliefs. All the bad you've done is just a part of God's plan for you. I believe I know what His plan for me is, but getting to that point is still a mystery to me. But everything that you do is part of His plan.
Feeling bad for things you've thought/done is understandable, but one shouldn't regret them. We are nothing more than the sum of our experiences; everything that's happened in our lives makes us who we are today. Even one small choice can change your life completely; if you hadn't make the mistakes you may not have become the better person that you are today. How do you know that we will always become better? Maybe if you had stayed in school, you would have been a better person. You would have understood things better and grown - up a bit more and then you may have had motivation to change something. By understanding things like history and any conceptual based subject, you can see things about humans that people who don't study these subjects do. I guess in a way you become wiser and more humble in a way. You respect yourself more and things like that. That could be a very large regret. You would also feel bad - but regret the day you dropped out of school. To say that you will always be a better person, regardless if you follow god's path or your own, whatever your beliefs are - is not always true is it? That you will be a better person...
I see now that my wording was a little vague; when I said "this is directed at Tricky" I meant the whole post, not just the one point. 
Of course certain things won't always end up making you better, but I was referring to tricky's situation in my post.  | |
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pm | | Re: Regrets in Life (27th Aug 08 at 6:23am UTC) | | | kk, I get it now | |
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pmwww | | Re: Regrets in Life (29th Aug 08 at 12:18pm UTC) | | I think my biggest regret was not getting to go to uni, and generally not doing as well as i should in my A levels.
I was accepted for uni to study Journalism but due to financial troubles it meant i would be at least £500 in debt before i even got there. It meant that all my future plans had changed and plans with my girlfriend (we were going to be only an hour or so apart at different unis) were gone too. Fortunately, my girlfriend and i have got through it and are still together.
This meant that, at the time my entire life fell apart - i had to re-think everything. It meant i had to change my career options, re-think everything.
If i had concentrated a bit more at college, and also managed to get more hours at work instead of refusing on grounds of principle i'd have enough to have done what i wanted.
I try not to regret anything, but that is one thing that will stay with me. | |
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