are first impressions??

Do you size up a person based solely on your first impression or does the book actually read better than you thought??

Now you see this is a question that needs a bit more 'thought' you could be talking about a website in which case first impressions are basically everything. I only remember some sites due to their colour, name etc... if it's not 'cool' I wont return.

I sometimes have the problem of judging people as soon as I see them, I have started not to though, for some reasons there are people I take an instant dislike to, either cause they have done something to me or a friend, or I just don't know them.

Towards a book though, I normally read the blurb and let that tell me if I'll like it or not!

lol wrighty I clearly said "person"

I tend not to agree with people who decide everything based on first impressions. People can be intuitive at times and sometimes, coincidentally, first impressions are right. But the majority of times, I tend to get to know a person before making up my mind.

then you mentioned a book... and I was like WTF has a person got to do with a book? So I added a website for fun! .

When it comes to people, i do tend to be quite defensive. I'll probably not speak to them straightaway, as i want to view from a distance what kind of person they are, and how they interact and treat others.

For me, humour is a massive thing - probably more than it should be If i'm getting to know someone, if i make a joke or two (no "knock knock" ones, but you get the drift ) and they don't have a similar humour to me then i'll be less inclined to talk to them. However, if we have similar humour and things in common then i'll almost certainly talk to that person more

I've become a lot more accepting of people and things as i've got older, but i'm still a bit of a hard nut to crack I'll talk to a lot more people, but i'll not fully open up until i'm certain that i like someone.

Posted By Michael on 9th Jan 08 at 5:10pm

 

then you mentioned a book... and I was like WTF has a person got to do with a book? So I added a website for fun! .

When I said book, I was talking metaphorically, not literally

>.<

Posted By slip on 9th Jan 08 at 5:15pm

 

Posted By Michael on 9th Jan 08 at 5:10pm

 

then you mentioned a book... and I was like WTF has a person got to do with a book? So I added a website for fun! .

When I said book, I was talking metaphorically, not literally

>.<

Well ya should have said!

I tend to go off of first impressions, but I know I should go off of more than that o.o

People always find it easy to post on the internet saying that first impressions don't matter, but most of us, to some extent, do judge someone upon our first impression of them. While that impression may change as we get to know them better, that first impression will still be there.

It's human nature to judge, so when someone from one social group sees someone from another social group walking by, they will most likely, get a bad impression of the other.

I try to be better with this, as I have quite a few friends from different social groups, but sometimes I find it hard. Especially when the person you're trying not do judge goes out of their way to judge you.

There are two types of first impressions (which is sort of stupid, but yeah...); one being the look of a person physically and the personality and mind beneath the skin being the second. I like to think I wait until I see the personality before I can judge a person's character, humour, intellect etc.

Most of the time when people judge on looks they stereotype people, usually from what colours to the style of clothing along to their natural physical features. I've always thought personality is more important than physical appearance, who wants to talk to a good-looking person who can't hold a good conversation?

EDIT: So really it's not really the first impression that matters, but the second. I suppose thats why people talk more freely on the internet, because they skip the whole "looks" thing.

First impressions really do matter. If I was an employer if you walked in smelly, rude to a little girl, and just stole a little boy's lollipop right in front of me, think I am going to hire you?

As Cr0w said, I do have a lot of friends in different social groups. I made my High School reputation what I wanted. I am able to walk into any group I want...why? Because I made myself that way with impressions. I showed that I didn't judge much but in truth I do.

Even on forums. I am known as a really good critique when up to rate a forum, but am seen as harsh but I reach several points. Looking at a forum's design will be a first impression to me. It needs to catch my eye before content.

I see where you're coming from Felix.

I like to call stereotypical judging based on looks "Ignorant Physical Judgement".

On a personal relation to this, I always get called a punk, goth, and emo; which are all things I have no interest in, nor any relation to. Strange though, I never get called a "rocker", which would be the closest stereotype to me based on musical preference.

I posted a new picture on my myspace and made a smaller one for msn and I talked to someone I've been friends with for awhile and I got called emo on myspace by friends who know I'm one of the farthest things from emo and on msn I blocked the person because he was being a stereotypical bitch.

Posted By Marc on 10th Jan 08 at 1:48am

 

People always find it easy to post on the internet saying that first impressions don't matter, but most of us, to some extent, do judge someone upon our first impression of them. While that impression may change as we get to know them better, that first impression will still be there.

It's human nature to judge, so when someone from one social group sees someone from another social group walking by, they will most likely, get a bad impression of the other.

I try to be better with this, as I have quite a few friends from different social groups, but sometimes I find it hard. Especially when the person you're trying not do judge goes out of their way to judge you.

I just came out and said it.. so

Posted By ashkir on 10th Jan 08 at 1:58am

 

First impressions really do matter. If I was an employer if you walked in smelly, rude to a little girl, and just stole a little boy's lollipop right in front of me, think I am going to hire you?

I suppose that proves there are many different types of First Impressions. When it comes to profession you need to be seen as you act, to prove you are a professional. When you interact with your employer they aren't necessarily looking for you, but a worker who will do as their job description states. But socially you can look as far from how you act as you want and others should be able to know who you are despite that.

@ Cr0w & tricky: My last comment sort of ties into this, and anyone judging others despite prior knowledge of the person's personality isn't really worth the trouble. My personality could probably split into the nerds, the emos or the weirdos but my looks are just semi-normal. If I dyed my hair black or wore thick-framed glasses many people I already know would straight away classify me as emo, while if I started wearing tucked in shirts and huge 10 cm diameter glasses I'd be placed as a nerd. Stereotypes Suck

I think first impressions are important. This has nothing whatsoever to do with looks. Making impressions on someone does what it says: It makes an impression on them. Something like that sticks with you. For example, if someone is rude to me the first moment I meet them, from then on I will think of that person as someone who is rude to people, even if they don't know the person. Now, maybe that person was just having a bad day, but I still can't help but think of them in the way I specified.

I admit that it is a human fallacy that tempts us to make up our minds about things at first glance, but I try hard to resist it. When meeting new people, I am initially all clammed up and I will take time to open up to somebody once I know I've read the person well enough.

Posted By ashkir on 10th Jan 08 at 1:58am

 

First impressions really do matter. If I was an employer if you walked in smelly, rude to a little girl, and just stole a little boy's lollipop right in front of me, think I am going to hire you?

A job requires efficiency. A boss can't possibly select someone randomly and then wait for a month to "get to know the person" before really deciding. But Life is different from a Job.

Posted By slip on 10th Jan 08 at 6:45am

 

A job requires efficiency. A boss can't possibly select someone randomly and then wait for a month to "get to know the person" before really deciding. But Life is different from a Job.

Technically they could, it's called a Probation period

But probation is based on how well the employee can do the job. I don't think it really has much to do with how neat/polite the employee is. Nobody wants the absence of those qualities in an employee so thats usually via first impressions.

It depends on the job, really - at the shop i work at there are only 8 of us on the department and we have to work together so having someone that is a team player, can be friendly as well as task orientated and is, above all, good at their job. We recently had a temp that was good at the job, but wasn't helpful, didn't talk that much and didn't seem to want to be part of the group as much as we tried integrating him. Alas, he was let go.

However, other jobs that aren't reliant on teamwork/customer interaction mean that different qualities are needed. Horses for courses really